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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a friend who tells me the same info on her life multiple times. Sometimes I will just say, nicely, oh you mentioned that. Frankly it makes me feel like she really doesn't remember our conversations and/or she is sharing this info with so many people she can't keep track of it. [/quote]

Was coming to say exactly this. It's the only time I will say, "Yes, you already told me this." When it happens a lot and it becomes clear that I am interchangeable with other people in terms of just being a listening ear. It indicates a shallow relationship when it happens a lot.

I should also note that in the few friendships I've had where this has been an issue, it ran both ways.[b] They would tell me the same information and stories over and over, and they would also just instantly forget anything I shared with them, even private things I shared about my personal life with the assumption that they understood it was an act of trust. I just got to the point with these friends that they weren't really interested in me as an individual, but just in having a friend, any friend.[/b] Or plans, any plans.

I like spending time alone so I don't understand the point of friendships that are just having the same conversation over and over again. Why? Go home and watch reruns of the office if that's what you want. (Not saying this is you OP -- it sounds like your friend was rude. I'm talking about other people.)[/quote]

I agree with this.  Aside from the elderly, this problem is endemic to those people who do not truly participate in conversations but talk at you.  They don't digest anything you tell them.  They don't remember what they told you because you are just a receptacle for their talking, a convenient audience.  
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