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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She’s the third kid? Yup, seems about right.

She’s screaming because she needs and wants attention and it’s hard to get in a family of five. Full stop. Unlike your older children, she lacks the communication skills, or the self awareness, to get that attention in other ways. She is also starting from a deficit they didn’t have— there was more of you to go around when they were her age, so they likely developed a greater sense of security in you. Your third kid doesn’t have that.

The only way to change the behavior is the find a way to get her the sense of security. That’s going to mean being proactive about 1:1 time, giving her focused attention during family activities, etc. You might think you give her this already, because you are thinking of how her screaming and tantrums derails family activity and how much energy goes into dealing with them. But that attentions isn’t fun for anyone, including her.

Try: during family meals, give everyone a chance to talk about their day. Including her. I know, she will not really understand the question and won’t know how to answer at first. That’s fine, she’s two. But show her the same interest you would show in her older siblings and she’ll catch in quicker than you think. And make sure her older siblings are also listening to her. This will be hard for them at first. Everyone practice. These are good skills.

Also set aside time every day where she gets 1:1 time with a parent. It can be 15 minutes. But make it special, allow her to choose the activity, and do it every day.

All of this is more important than how you deal with the screaming directly.[/quote]

This is a good post.[/quote]

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