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[quote=Anonymous]21:11 here.

Speaking for myself, I think many women would consider it a deal breaker because homosexuality is so stigmatized for men that for a man to cross that boundary suggests that he must have a BIG reason to do so. That might be bisexuality, but it might be a closeted gay man.

Also, men who have sex with men - it's a much riskier profile group (for lots of things including diseases) especially men who have sex with men but present as straight and [u]don't tell anyone[/u]. You already have a sexual identity which is illicit and you are already practiced at lying to your female partner, maybe you even get some thrill from that. It's not a big leap to cheating. I would consider cheating with a man worse than cheating with a woman btw. A lot worse. I also think that I would also be nervous because we wouldn't expect a straight man to share a bed with a female friend once he's married,  but a man who wants to have sex with men can do so without raising suspicion. I think there is just too much temptation. What about saunas or showers in the gym? Gay/bisexual men can always be looking and then if there's one crack in the relationship, one problem, one issue, they can run out and cheat. I think straight men (truly straight men) are less likely to cheat.

I also think gay culture is more promiscuous, more likely to have non monogamous relationships and accept illicit relationships. I think that while straight women can't expect to cut off sex and their husbands not cheat, gay male relationships don't have pregnancy, female orgasm difficulties, childbirth, birth control or periods, or any other hormonal problems that women go through and so can afford to be less respectful of physical difficulties which might result in reduced libido or sexual problems. But men know they can get sex any time from other men, that is different to a straight man who knows that male-female relationships are often more complicated and may be more likely to compromise in a marriage.

Also, I think that people who are less mainstream in their sexual preferences are probably the same in other ways. So maybe a bisexual husband is also hiding a foot fetish or cross dresses. I'm not saying that is always the case, just that I'd be concerned that once married, my husband would reveal all of these other things I now "have to do" for the health of my marriage which would be a sexual turn off to me. Adult babies, furries, extreme domination etc.

It's not that I don't believe that bisexual men don't exist or are closet gay, I just believe strongly that they are more likely to cheat.

So, I'm interested. If your wife had said "I think bisexuality is wrong", what would your response have been? Would you have disagreed?

Also, do you still look at gay porn and things? Just trying to see if this goes dormant or not?[/quote]

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