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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am the DH who experimented with guys.  First, there is such a thing as a bisexual man.  For the life of me, I can never understand why women only think they can be bisexual.  I believe in the Kinsey scale where orientation is often not definite.  Second, in public I check out women but never men and have no desire to ever have an emotional relationship with a man.  I am totally straight looking and acting.

The reality is that I enjoy sex more with a woman but a piece of me also liked getting together with men.  I also believe in monogamy and therefore have no intention of being married and being on the "down low".  Do I ever get the urge to be with a guy?  Yes but I also fantasize about other women, threesomes, and wife swapping but I don't intend to do any of these things.  Don't we all have fantasies but know the reality would not be as expected?

I would never tell my wife, even on my deathbed, because just like she had a life before me so did I.  What counts is what we are like now and moving forward.

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Fell in love with her but looked at this as part of my past and something that would upset someone I started caring about.  Should I have risked losing the best woman I ever met?

Let me give you a parallel argument.  Suppose my wife came forward and said, "honey I have been with other women and also was an escort in college".  I would still love her and actually respect her more for coming forward and trusting our relationship enough to disclose this.  But again, like someone remarked, most women are not as tolerant in this department.  Women with women is considered "exploring" while men with men is gay, disgusting, etc.  You hear the phrase lesbian until graduation but never gay until graduation.

I agree with you on most of this. I have no problem at all understanding bisexuality and have those tendencies myself. What I don't understand is marrying someone who doesn't get it. I also don't understand why bisexuality would be a deal breaker for so many women.[/quote][/quote]

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