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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You do things together and make plans and stick to them.  Set up a day...every other Tuesday or whatever and make it a planned thing.   Do something together.  Play video games.  Go to the zoo.   Go to one of those paint places.  Go to an arcade.   Basically just spend a couple hours with them on a set schedule.  They will warm up to you.  The mos important thing is to stick to the schedule. It allows the kid to know you're reliable and you follow through.  They can trust you because you don't let them down.

And like other pps have said, this can't be about you.  Take the kids lead.  Don't push them.  If you play video games for an hour and don't talk, that's ok.  You're still showing him you're there for him.  Kids who have been through a lot have their guard up.  They get manipulated.  They learn not to get too close.   So the more you show him you're there, the more that guard will come down. [/quote]

+1 That’s very wise - the idea that they can share activities without talking, and that’s okay.[/quote]

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