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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. My parents are immigrants from Zambia. My mother never completed an education post middle school and my father was a mid level bureaucrat back there. They did what they could and sent us to local private schools and took out loans + scholarships for us to come to America. My other siblings are in the UK as well.

The problem is now my father is retired and he has a small pension and no savings as he spent it all plus amassed a lot of loans to send us abroad. [/quote]

When did they/you move here?  If they sent you to private schools here, I still wonder why it wouldn't have been more prudent to rent a smaller place in an adequate public school district.  As for your mother, could she not have gotten her high school degree here?  Plenty of immigrants without education find ways to work at least a little bit after their children are older or grown up.  The bottom line is, your parents are the parents and it was their responsibility to make a lifelong plan that would be realistic.  Not say oh well, it's out of our hands.

I think the best thing you can do is lay off your sister for a while, and focus on helping your parents get on a sustainable budget.  Find as much benefits as you can in the public system.  See if you can find them a cheaper place to live.  When giving them gifts, try to give them something that is nice and they will enjoy, but is also something that they actually do need, because then they will not have that expense anymore.

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