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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I get what you are saying. It’s not anxiety if it’s a situation that is coming in the future and you feel trapped. It’s difficult for non-only-children to understand this pressure.

I have the same concern in reverse. If my father outlives my mother, it’s going to be a disaster. That’s not likely to happen as his health is worse than hers, but I do have a plan for this possibly. Talk to your lawyer. You probably will end up managing her (that’s better for you than a court appointed guardian), but you can get help.[/quote]

What kind of help?[/quote]

Well, eventually guardianship becomes necessary and placement in care facilities or in home caregivers can be arranged. Prior to that point, you might have to distance yourself and give their local social services a call to explain the issues with self care that they have. APS. I have already spoken with the APS counselor in my parent’s area. I decided that they needed to be left alone for a while before these steps will work, but eventually they will be needed.

It is so painful when you are the only child and there is no other family to help out.

Remember, they are adults and you should never put yourself or your family at risk in helping your parents.[/quote]

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