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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am about to cut contact with a severely abusive parent that is not getting any better. She’s taken care of and living in an assisted living home. How did it feel when the parent passed away? Did you cry or mourn them? Did you have regrets? [/quote]

It was many, many years after I'd cut contact and I got the call from the coroner since I was next of kin (my parents were finally divorced by that time so *lucky me* it wasn't the living parent who had to take the call because they were no longer married).

I didn't claim the body, had it cremated by the state and tossed into a community grave. I did feel a sense of control and closure over the whole thing but just a few weeks ago the autopsy report and death certificate arrived (the actual death was years ago but I found the paperwork in some covid clean up and ordered the information so I had it on file should I ever need it). Reading the autopsy report was more triggering than I though it would be (not in a regretful way, in an unpleasant way).

This is a hard one, I think its different for everyone. The level of abuse, neglect and poverty I pulled myself out of was very bad and I don't have contact with my living parent, either.

Your results may vary. [/quote]

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