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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'll be the voice of disset. A 15 yr old doesn't see the long term impacts of his decisions.

When my DC was younger, I pushed DC to do some things that I thought would be good for DC. DC hated it, but  deep down, DC knew that I was right. So, DC did what I pushed DC to do.  Years later, this activity helped DC, and DC realizes it and is grateful that I pushed DC.  DC is now 15.

I don't know your kid's situation, but sometimes, in some things, it is worth pushing your kid.

Frame it this way.. no matter what happens, we are not pulling you out of private for xyz reason. Are you really going to give this up to spite us when in the long run this activity is for you?

Also, if he gives up soccer, what activity will he do? I always tell my kids they have to do something - a sport, after school activity, something. So, what will he do?

I would not take away the phone for this. But, make it clear that he has to do something.  Give that choice to him.[/quote]

Agree with this - most 15 year olds who've considered/talked about/threatened/said they were quitting "x" would be thrilled if us as parents said "ok, I'm tired of shuttling you around to all of your stuff".

They are kids, they'd rather be doing other things and they aren't thinking about the long term. Most kids need some kind of push be it tiny or a shove unless they are extremely driven and it shouldn't only be those kids who see the benefit of continuing something they've put so much time into. [/quote]

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