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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP,

I was in a similar situation ... found out he had been cheating on me; am the bread winner; have twin toddlers where I did most of the heavy lifting (because he "worked" from 7 AM to 7 PM)  I confronted him 5 days after I found out and he's been out of the house ever since.  I could have filed for an immediate divorce but chose to go the separation route because it's cheaper.  It will be final in Feb 2012.  I didn't bother with counseling for the both of us (except for myself).  What he did was egregious and unforgivable.

When it comes to my kids, we've worked out visitation and child support.  I don't say anything bad about him (being the child of divorced parents has really guided my actions for the better in that arena)  Part of what solidified my decision to divorce him was this ... there's no way I could ever completely trust him.  I'd always second guess him and check up on him.  That's not a relationship I want to model for my children.

Honestly, a lot of things are easier without him around.  I make the decisions - no discussion required.  If something doesn't get done, I know it was me that didn't do it.  It's a hell of a lot of work though - but I can afford to get sitters when I need them (my sitter service is a godsend).

I'd be happy to talk to you more about the experience and give you my perspective... feel free to contact me at encoreyetagain@gmail.com. 
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