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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m not sure what you’re talking about. I’m 34 and haven’t lived at home since I started college.

I’ve gone back to visit of course, but isn’t it normal to move out then?[/quote]

Probably in some areas. The DMV is a bit different because COL is so high.   My college freshman has his mind spinning about the future. Is home (with us) during breaks.  It’s not like kids can “put themselves” through even state college in 2020.  He’ll be home this summer. But is in a science field, so I foresee one or more summers he’s doing research elsewhere.

He asked when we talked this week if he could move home after college while he saved money for an apartment. And of course he could, if he was employed (or working hard on it)  and had a plan.  He’s grown up so much this year. I love having him here.  But, not forever unless he has an emergency.

He also said getting back to college “felt like coming home,” which made me tear it. It’s sad, but I’m so happy he found such a great school and is happy— as a freshman during COVID. It’s normal. It’s healthy. It’s sad.

I think in high COL areas and for kids in college, it’s a process.  It isn’t feasible to leave after HS graduation, set up an apartment with a roommate,  have a job,  and pay for college.  In fact, larger numbers of kids in this area are living at home and heading for NOVA for two years, then transferring.

I see my kid as needing to start making real progress towards independence— financially and logistically— after college. In the meantime, college is the new HS and a kid without a degree can’t make enough to get housing in a safe pace. Certainly not and attend school.

Now, I’m from the rural South, and that’s a different story. [/quote]

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