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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here... we are making a trip to visit them on Thanksgiving, so we'll visit them at least once this year.

I admit wasn't the best host when they came to visit when DS was first born.  We ordered take out food and just hung out around the house.  Although, I definitely didn't hand DS off to them and expect them to watch him.  I never asked or expected them to help with anything around the house (and they didn't, no biggie).  I did excuse myself to go upstairs and nurse because I wasn't comfortable doing it in front of my FILs.  Now that I think about it, maybe they thought I was avoiding them somehow?  I was going upstairs every 2-3 hours and it took a while to nurse.

Ugh, this in-law stuff is crazy.[/quote]

OP, I suspect some of the PPs are misreading how old your baby is. That first visit you're *supposed* to be a bad host--you had a newborn! Every nurse/therapist/midwife I've had has talked about how those early visitors are supposed to be there to make your life easier, not harder. If that means grandma holds the baby while you sleep, that's how it's supposed to be. I wouldn't feel in the slightest bit guilty about any of the stuff you've said.

That said, two hours really isn't that far, especially at six months. Does DS sleep okay in the car? If it were me, I'd leave in the morning right before the first nap, he'd sleep the whole way there, spend two hours of awake quality time with the grandparents, then drive home (second nap in the car). Sure, it's a day you can't rest and catch up around the house, but those long drives are the only time DH and I really get to have actual conversations, so we relish them. (My DS is 9 months. At 3 months, we drove about 2600 miles in a week to visit three different grandparent sets. With a dog. It wasn't a magical vacation to be sure, but otherwise I wasn't sure how he would meet his great-grandmothers.)[/quote]

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