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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's illegal, call the police on the boy[/quote]

it's illegal, but she is the one who is committing an illegal act. Involving police in this situation isn't going to make anyone safer.

Look OP, sending nudes is illegal (albeit very common) and obviously problematic for somebody so young.  Sending verbally provocative messages isn't illegal and, quite frankly, the only outlet a lot of kids have right now since they can't see each other in person.  Young teens are sexual beings, you can't wave that away with a magic wand by taking away her phone. This is really less a situation that calls for "consequences" and more one that calls for communication and education.  You HAVE to see her where she is.  You have to acknowledge that she is craving attention and is learning how to get it by "using her words." I work in health care and I see the kids all the time who's parents attempt to control their behavior by force and you know what?  It doesn't work.  They don't have the tools to keep themselves safe and are at greater risk for all the things parents worry about (pregnancy/STIs/non-consensual sex etc.)

I have 2 teenagers, I recognize how hard it is to see them as sexual beings. You can't stop that from happening, the best you can do is guide it in a safe and healthy direction.  I strongly encourage you to read Peggy Orenstein's books (Boys and Sex, Girls and Sex) for a thoughtful approach to get you started.[/quote]

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