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[quote=Anonymous]It sounds like your standards are higher than hers for keeping the home clean and the types of meals you eat, etc. She has communicated she is overwhelmed to you - she is working full time, managing the kids/activities 2 days a week, taking on cleaning projects on the weekends...I don't doubt you are doing vastly more, but maybe the solution is not that she do more, or much more anyway. You need to figure out together the things that are "musts" and the things that are okay to let go and if neither of you has the time/energy/will to do the musts then hire help. You may have to agree to leave things undone that you would prefer be done or do them yourself, but if your wife doesn't care about those things it's not fair to resent her. She is probably frustrated that she isn't living up to your expectations for healthy meals and clean counters, but if she doesn't value those things in the same way, asking her to do them when she has already told you she is overwhelmed is not going to get the results you want. Of course, we hope that in any loving relationship our spouse will do things to make us happy or because we want them to, but that only goes so far and when those acts of consideration and kindness turn into demands they are even less motivating. I'm sorry you are carrying such a burden. Life is especially hard for so many parents right now.[/quote]

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