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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi, Mama. I know lots of people are using screens more now than they ever expected to. Let us help you problem solve how to get the baby on the floor, no screen. What are your barriers?[/quote]

OMG could you be any more smug and insufferable? [/quote]

I was trying not to jump down the OP’s throat. When I was a new mom, I hated when people gave me advice that I knew, but couldn’t execute. I was going for approachable and understanding. Sorry that it didn’t come off that way. I still think it was a better response than:

omg! get that baby off screens NOOOOW!!!! etc.

OP probably knows that her kid shouldn’t be watching screens. There’s a barrier. A knowledge barrier. A time barrier. Something. Why not be solution-oriented? [/quote]

You are not helping yourself. You sound awful. Clearly you’re experiencing some sort of barrier when it comes to communicating without sounding insufferable. [/quote]

Nah, she's fine, she just doesn't know her audience. Her post would have been better-received... well, almost anywhere but DCUM, which is for judgment, defensiveness and, at best, very quick tips. Emotional support? Kind phrasing? Familiarity (in a pure anon forum)? Nah.[/quote]

Yup. This is what most mom-centered support resources sound like. But I actually agree it’s condescending. But so are the VAST majority of parental-advice comments on DCUM.

The problem with most info resources for parents, but especially moms, is that they never give people much benefit of the doubt. Everyone read the OP and thought “oh no this dumb woman is strapping her 8 mo old to a chair all day and putting him in front of the TV.” Is that even what’s happening? I still don’t know. This could be a 15 minute a day thing. And it sounds like her kid just likes having a place to recline sometimes, which hey, so do I. But there’s no presupposition that OP is probably a decent parent who might have made a few different choices. The assumption is that she’s an idiot.

(FTR, OP, I don’t think you are an idiot and I’m sure you’re a caring mom. I can’t speak to your question because I had a different kind of baby and parented in a different way. But I hope you find what you are looking for.)[/quote]

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