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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi, Mama. I know lots of people are using screens more now than they ever expected to. Let us help you problem solve how to get the baby on the floor, no screen. What are your barriers?

OMG could you be any more smug and insufferable?

I was trying not to jump down the OP’s throat. When I was a new mom, I hated when people gave me advice that I knew, but couldn’t execute. I was going for approachable and understanding. Sorry that it didn’t come off that way. I still think it was a better response than:

omg! get that baby off screens NOOOOW!!!! etc.


OP probably knows that her kid shouldn’t be watching screens. There’s a barrier. A knowledge barrier. A time barrier. Something. Why not be solution-oriented?

NP. Yea, you really have been reading too many Motherly-type blogs. Your comment really is annoying.

I love this thread. So much great commentary mother-geared media haha.

I've had two children and really never had to "stash" them somewhere while I went to the bathroom, etc. We have a lot of baby gates. Bring them in the bathroom and shut the door.

Anonymous wrote:OP, we have this, it goes up to 40lbs I think

https://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-FDP04-Infant-to-Toddler-Rocker/dp/B01M3QYIE3

DD is 21 months and sometimes hangs out in it but not for long, also loves to put her stuffed animals in it, occasionally she'll hang out in there for like 10 minutes while I rock her with my foot.

NP, I like this too. My baby is 6 months and its time to say goodbye to the Mamaroo. I like that this turns into a lounger chair.

OP babies see TVs and screens so just ignore the condescension. Despite our best efforts it seems its almost impossible for us to avoid it. My baby is attracted to any screen she sees; DH and I are both working from home on laptops, we watch news and sports, although we orient her away from the TV if she is in the room, and she grabs for our cell phones anytime they light up near her.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi, Mama. I know lots of people are using screens more now than they ever expected to. Let us help you problem solve how to get the baby on the floor, no screen. What are your barriers?

OMG could you be any more smug and insufferable?

I was trying not to jump down the OP’s throat. When I was a new mom, I hated when people gave me advice that I knew, but couldn’t execute. I was going for approachable and understanding. Sorry that it didn’t come off that way. I still think it was a better response than:

omg! get that baby off screens NOOOOW!!!! etc.


OP probably knows that her kid shouldn’t be watching screens. There’s a barrier. A knowledge barrier. A time barrier. Something. Why not be solution-oriented?

You are not helping yourself. You sound awful. Clearly you’re experiencing some sort of barrier when it comes to communicating without sounding insufferable.

Nah, she's fine, she just doesn't know her audience. Her post would have been better-received... well, almost anywhere but DCUM, which is for judgment, defensiveness and, at best, very quick tips. Emotional support? Kind phrasing? Familiarity (in a pure anon forum)? Nah.

Yup. This is what most mom-centered support resources sound like. But I actually agree it’s condescending. But so are the VAST majority of parental-advice comments on DCUM.

The problem with most info resources for parents, but especially moms, is that they never give people much benefit of the doubt. Everyone read the OP and thought “oh no this dumb woman is strapping her 8 mo old to a chair all day and putting him in front of the TV.” Is that even what’s happening? I still don’t know. This could be a 15 minute a day thing. And it sounds like her kid just likes having a place to recline sometimes, which hey, so do I. But there’s no presupposition that OP is probably a decent parent who might have made a few different choices. The assumption is that she’s an idiot.

(FTR, OP, I don’t think you are an idiot and I’m sure you’re a caring mom. I can’t speak to your question because I had a different kind of baby and parented in a different way. But I hope you find what you are looking for.)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi, Mama. I know lots of people are using screens more now than they ever expected to. Let us help you problem solve how to get the baby on the floor, no screen. What are your barriers?

OMG could you be any more smug and insufferable?

I was trying not to jump down the OP’s throat. When I was a new mom, I hated when people gave me advice that I knew, but couldn’t execute. I was going for approachable and understanding. Sorry that it didn’t come off that way. I still think it was a better response than:

omg! get that baby off screens NOOOOW!!!! etc.


OP probably knows that her kid shouldn’t be watching screens. There’s a barrier. A knowledge barrier. A time barrier. Something. Why not be solution-oriented?

I was the first person who responded to you. Based on your follow-up, you're probably not as horrible a person as you sounded initially.

But you're still judgmental about "screens." There's no evidence or reason to believe that it matters one way or the other (and don't waste your time Googling nonsense or correlative studies).

The suggestion that OP apparently needed is that it's OK to use a pack-n-play or Playyard for a little bit of peace from constantly supervising a crawling baby. I'm actually surprised by the number of responses to that, and the lack of judgmental opposition. I feel like 10 years ago when we were in this stage, those were dirty words: Pack-n-Play was to be nothing more than a portable crib.

Don't call anyone Mama or Dad who aren't your parents. Even if you're the pediatrician -- that's the worst.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi, Mama. I know lots of people are using screens more now than they ever expected to. Let us help you problem solve how to get the baby on the floor, no screen. What are your barriers?

OMG could you be any more smug and insufferable?

I was trying not to jump down the OP’s throat. When I was a new mom, I hated when people gave me advice that I knew, but couldn’t execute. I was going for approachable and understanding. Sorry that it didn’t come off that way. I still think it was a better response than:

omg! get that baby off screens NOOOOW!!!! etc.


OP probably knows that her kid shouldn’t be watching screens. There’s a barrier. A knowledge barrier. A time barrier. Something. Why not be solution-oriented?

You are not helping yourself. You sound awful. Clearly you’re experiencing some sort of barrier when it comes to communicating without sounding insufferable.

Nah, she's fine, she just doesn't know her audience. Her post would have been better-received... well, almost anywhere but DCUM, which is for judgment, defensiveness and, at best, very quick tips. Emotional support? Kind phrasing? Familiarity (in a pure anon forum)? Nah.

She can go to babycenter and lecture teen “mamas...”

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi, Mama. I know lots of people are using screens more now than they ever expected to. Let us help you problem solve how to get the baby on the floor, no screen. What are your barriers?

OMG could you be any more smug and insufferable?

I was trying not to jump down the OP’s throat. When I was a new mom, I hated when people gave me advice that I knew, but couldn’t execute. I was going for approachable and understanding. Sorry that it didn’t come off that way. I still think it was a better response than:

omg! get that baby off screens NOOOOW!!!! etc.


OP probably knows that her kid shouldn’t be watching screens. There’s a barrier. A knowledge barrier. A time barrier. Something. Why not be solution-oriented?

You are not helping yourself. You sound awful. Clearly you’re experiencing some sort of barrier when it comes to communicating without sounding insufferable.

Nah, she's fine, she just doesn't know her audience. Her post would have been better-received... well, almost anywhere but DCUM, which is for judgment, defensiveness and, at best, very quick tips. Emotional support? Kind phrasing? Familiarity (in a pure anon forum)? Nah.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi, Mama. I know lots of people are using screens more now than they ever expected to. Let us help you problem solve how to get the baby on the floor, no screen. What are your barriers?

OMG could you be any more smug and insufferable?

I was trying not to jump down the OP’s throat. When I was a new mom, I hated when people gave me advice that I knew, but couldn’t execute. I was going for approachable and understanding. Sorry that it didn’t come off that way. I still think it was a better response than:

omg! get that baby off screens NOOOOW!!!! etc.


OP probably knows that her kid shouldn’t be watching screens. There’s a barrier. A knowledge barrier. A time barrier. Something. Why not be solution-oriented?

You are not helping yourself. You sound awful. Clearly you’re experiencing some sort of barrier when it comes to communicating without sounding insufferable.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi, Mama. I know lots of people are using screens more now than they ever expected to. Let us help you problem solve how to get the baby on the floor, no screen. What are your barriers?

OMG could you be any more smug and insufferable?

I was trying not to jump down the OP’s throat. When I was a new mom, I hated when people gave me advice that I knew, but couldn’t execute. I was going for approachable and understanding. Sorry that it didn’t come off that way. I still think it was a better response than:

omg! get that baby off screens NOOOOW!!!! etc.


OP probably knows that her kid shouldn’t be watching screens. There’s a barrier. A knowledge barrier. A time barrier. Something. Why not be solution-oriented?

Okay, “mama”...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi, Mama. I know lots of people are using screens more now than they ever expected to. Let us help you problem solve how to get the baby on the floor, no screen. What are your barriers?

OMG could you be any more smug and insufferable?

I was trying not to jump down the OP’s throat. When I was a new mom, I hated when people gave me advice that I knew, but couldn’t execute. I was going for approachable and understanding. Sorry that it didn’t come off that way. I still think it was a better response than:

omg! get that baby off screens NOOOOW!!!! etc.


OP probably knows that her kid shouldn’t be watching screens. There’s a barrier. A knowledge barrier. A time barrier. Something. Why not be solution-oriented?

A pack and play would work well if you need to stash him while you run to the bathroom or answer the door or something. We did that with ours until they were about 1.5.

Anonymous wrote:OP, we have this, it goes up to 40lbs I think

https://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-FDP04-Infant-to-Toddler-Rocker/dp/B01M3QYIE3

DD is 21 months and sometimes hangs out in it but not for long, also loves to put her stuffed animals in it, occasionally she'll hang out in there for like 10 minutes while I rock her with my foot.

I've never seen this, but it's what I was kind of looking for. I wanted a little chair for him that he can get out of on his own so he isn't restrained. Right now I put him in the bouncer after meals to digest and then he gets out on his own to crawl around and play. It also helped if I needed to leave the room to use the bathroom or laundry. This would work for both scenarios (strapped in and not). Thanks for taking the time to share this!

Anonymous wrote:I think they’re supposed to be out of the bouncer as soon as they can sit unassisted but after 3 months , my kids wanted nothing to do with the bouncer anyway. They just liked rolling around on the floor. I got a plastic play yard like this for when they needed a safe spot to be while we ran to the bathroom or I was cooking.

https://www.amazon.com/Foldable-Classy-Kiddie-Whiteboard-Activity/dp/B07HQSBMZV/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_sspa?dchild=1&keywords=plastic+play+yard&qid=1610488566&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUFINTZaVklMMjVYV1MmZW5jcnlwdGVkSWQ9QTA2MzQxMDExQkdVSDZZU0s2QjhPJmVuY3J5cHRlZEFkSWQ9QTAzMTc4MDVWT1EyM0hPRU1ZVDUmd2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9waG9uZV9zZWFyY2hfYXRmJmFjdGlvbj1jbGlja1JlZGlyZWN0JmRvTm90TG9nQ2xpY2s9dHJ1ZQ==

Thanks for this link! I hadn't considered a fence. I put him in the bouncer, after a bottle or meal to digest, and then he gets out on his own and just has free reign of the living area to crawl and play w toys. Like you mentioned, it helped me if I needed a bathroom break or to transfer the laundry, etc. I will look into this. Thanks again.

Anonymous wrote:Hi, Mama. I know lots of people are using screens more now than they ever expected to. Let us help you problem solve how to get the baby on the floor, no screen. What are your barriers?

OMG could you be any more smug and insufferable?

OP, we have this, it goes up to 40lbs I think

https://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-FDP04-Infant-to-Toddler-Rocker/dp/B01M3QYIE3

DD is 21 months and sometimes hangs out in it but not for long, also loves to put her stuffed animals in it, occasionally she'll hang out in there for like 10 minutes while I rock her with my foot.