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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^ sorry, consider that you may wish to go through your son instead. Maybe not and having nothing to do with this incident, but I do find your generation has a huge bias which winds up putting an undue burden on women. [/quote]

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It means there's no reason that OP can't be texting with her son about this.  Her son can figure out the scheduling and all that.  It doesn't need to be on the DIL.[/quote]

This mentality of your family and my family and only talk to your mother and I will only talk to my mother is so detrimental and sadly it is preached on DC UM all the time. Why can’t a mother-in-law text dil?  The flipside to this is the people complaining that their mother-in-law‘s never talk to them.[/quote]

It's not detrimental when the alternative is that the wife handles the majority of all family interaction with both families. And that is the default much of the time. If we lived in a truly egalitarian society, then it might make sense to say "oh we are all one family, you should be able to reach out to either person." But we don't. So what happens is that everyone goes through the wife because, after all, she's just better at that stuff, she's more likely to remember, blah blah blah. It's especially true with inter-generational relationships because older generations are much more like to default to the idea that anything having to do with family/home/kids/food/caretaking is for women.[/quote]

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