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[quote=Anonymous]OP, do a little Googling about whether blocking vs deactivating causes old comments to disappear (of course people can also manually delete comments, on top of her profile not being viewable). I don't know the answer, but that will help you. I don't know what "empty, complete blank page" means either. A broken link? A profile but just a blank profile?

I do know that if someone has blocked you, the easiest way to tell is if other mutual friends can still see her page. If you had a mutual FB friend really close to you that wouldn't judge you, I guess you could ask them to check. I know you should "just let it go," but this kind of thing can be hurtful, confusing... and frustrating because it can be ambiguous, if she did block you and didn't just generally deactivate. You ask, was it a mistake? Probably not, but what caused it? Was it really that serious? IF she did block you personally (big if), I do think posting a MS pic might have been the cause or last straw in her mind, but that doesn't necessarily mean that was a rational response on her end. DCUM would like to tell you that you must be at fault somehow-- but some people just have issues.

My BIL-- DH's brother-- blocked me on FB for no discernible reason. (He can be capricious-- IDK. DH doesn't know either-- or at least has no idea of a "good" reason.) BIL and I were never FB friends in the first place, not for any particular reason, but this happened about 5 years ago, when I hadn't really added a lot of family as FB friends in any concerted way, and hadn't really realized BIL was even on FB. So I don't really know what it's like to be FB friends and [i]then[/i] blocked.

Anyway, I realized when DH's cousin posted in a family group and I could see their non-nested [i]responses[/i] to BIL, but not BIL's comments. I poked around and realized there were a couple of other things like that. I realized if I tried to search BIL's uncommon name on FB, nothing came up for me. But DH showed me that same cousin post on his own phone, and then I could see BIL's comments. Now, years later, I am on a family thread in FB Messenger with everyone, and I guess because of that-- perhaps because he started the group text himself?-- I can see BIL's messages. But I can't click on his name or icon at all. He still has me blocked. *shrug emoji*

I don't think of it every day, but it does bug me a little still-- I am the godmother to both of his kids, and he is my kid's godfather. I know he's found me annoying [i]at times[/i]-- not on FB, where anything remotely controversial I might post is heavily filtered, and no one related to me can even see it! But that's literally all I've got-- mostly we have gotten along very well, have been ILs for 20 years, and in theory we have a fine relationship. At the time when I realized he had me blocked, there was a mild strain on his relationship with me and DH related mostly, I think, to the fact that we didn't force our DD to hug people and we didn't let people pick her up without warning-- she was 2-3. And he was definitely pouty and weird about that. But that's just evidence of the fact that people's weird behavior on social media gets to you if you're at all sensitive. And by "you," I mean me, for sure. Some people just have issues that have little, if anything, to do with you. [/quote]

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