Anonymous wrote:Probably because you post as if you're writing a poem. I hate your posts, and I bet others do also.

I appreciate the comment, but people have told me that they prefer I use paragraphs instead of simply writing everything into a single page w/no breaks.
So I began using paragraphs to make my posts easier to read.

Thank you to all who responded.
I contracted my friend via Instagram earlier & got a response back.

She did delete her FB account due to the political climate + Covid.
Plus her Mother passed and she shared her marriage has had some issues as well.
She told me that she likes Instagram much more and suggested we stay in touch via that.
She said she was never angry or upset with me at all.

Thankfully everything worked out in the end.

She probably deleted her FB account or just generally finds you annoying. Either way, push on, things will get better. There are other friends out there to fry. Or something like that.

If you block or someone blocks you, you can still see their comments on your posts/pictures. However, if you click on their name, a window shows up that says, "This page isn't available right now" and shows a blue reload button. When someone deactivates their account they're not removed from your friendslist. You will still see their name and a blank photo, if you click it it will tell you they deactivated their account in a small pop-up window. Either way, I don't think you should over think it. If you have her number, call and talk to her but, it sounds like she deactivated her account and it has nothing to do with you.

She probably deleted her account. Do you have a direct email address?

I have cut way back on social media use. I quit all other social media including IG and twitter. I've considered deactivating facebook entirely, but I hesitate because then there is no way for people to contact me and I would like to leave the door open. It also seems to be the default communication for parents at my son's preschool, for community events, and for news from my alma mater page about old classmates who have died, who are battling cancer and have a gofundme, etc. It does serve its purpose, but you have to wade through garbage to get there, and I understand why some people leave.

Probably because you post as if you're writing a poem. I hate your posts, and I bet others do also.

Maybe she’s taking a social media break. I have friends who do that from them to time then their account disappears.

Sign out of facebook. Google your "friends name, state Facebook". You should get a listing of everyone with the same name. If she comes up then you know you have been blocked. Thats how I found out my ex blocked me.

Anonymous wrote:Thank you everyone for the helpful responses.

I have had friends deactivate their accounts previously where I received a notification when I tried to click on their profile.
On my friend’s account - it just shows an empty, complete blank page.
Is there any way to know the difference between a blocked account and a deleted (not deactivated) account?

Thx so much.

cheater that I know took down all of her accounts when caught.

some people also like to 'tighten' up their list to relatives and very close friends only.

I recently deactivated my account and it also deleted my old comments from other's pages. I didn't want to delete my account entirely, because there are probably pictures there I'll want to see again (twice now I've lost ALL my pictures off my phone thinking they were saved to the cloud, so several years worth of pictures are gone except for the ones online.)

Anyway--if she blocked you, you wouldn't see her name at all. Deactivating removes comments as I've recently learned.

Anonymous wrote:OP, do a little Googling about whether blocking vs deactivating causes old comments to disappear (of course people can also manually delete comments, on top of her profile not being viewable). I don't know the answer, but that will help you. I don't know what "empty, complete blank page" means either. A broken link? A profile but just a blank profile?

I do know that if someone has blocked you, the easiest way to tell is if other mutual friends can still see her page. If you had a mutual FB friend really close to you that wouldn't judge you, I guess you could ask them to check. I know you should "just let it go," but this kind of thing can be hurtful, confusing... and frustrating because it can be ambiguous, if she did block you and didn't just generally deactivate. You ask, was it a mistake? Probably not, but what caused it? Was it really that serious? IF she did block you personally (big if), I do think posting a MS pic might have been the cause or last straw in her mind, but that doesn't necessarily mean that was a rational response on her end. DCUM would like to tell you that you must be at fault somehow-- but some people just have issues.

My BIL-- DH's brother-- blocked me on FB for no discernible reason. (He can be capricious-- IDK. DH doesn't know either-- or at least has no idea of a "good" reason.) BIL and I were never FB friends in the first place, not for any particular reason, but this happened about 5 years ago, when I hadn't really added a lot of family as FB friends in any concerted way, and hadn't really realized BIL was even on FB. So I don't really know what it's like to be FB friends and then blocked.

Anyway, I realized when DH's cousin posted in a family group and I could see their non-nested responses to BIL, but not BIL's comments. I poked around and realized there were a couple of other things like that. I realized if I tried to search BIL's uncommon name on FB, nothing came up for me. But DH showed me that same cousin post on his own phone, and then I could see BIL's comments. Now, years later, I am on a family thread in FB Messenger with everyone, and I guess because of that-- perhaps because he started the group text himself?-- I can see BIL's messages. But I can't click on his name or icon at all. He still has me blocked. *shrug emoji*

I don't think of it every day, but it does bug me a little still-- I am the godmother to both of his kids, and he is my kid's godfather. I know he's found me annoying at times-- not on FB, where anything remotely controversial I might post is heavily filtered, and no one related to me can even see it! But that's literally all I've got-- mostly we have gotten along very well, have been ILs for 20 years, and in theory we have a fine relationship. At the time when I realized he had me blocked, there was a mild strain on his relationship with me and DH related mostly, I think, to the fact that we didn't force our DD to hug people and we didn't let people pick her up without warning-- she was 2-3. And he was definitely pouty and weird about that. But that's just evidence of the fact that people's weird behavior on social media gets to you if you're at all sensitive. And by "you," I mean me, for sure. Some people just have issues that have little, if anything, to do with you.

For clarity, I meant I can see BIL's messages on that FB Messenger group "text" only-- though I can't click on his name/profile/etc. because I'm still generally blocked by him on FB. I can't see his comments anywhere else on FB, including on DH's posts, etc.

Who still uses FB? My grandmother maybe. Ge with the times. Everyone moved on to new social media platforms.

OP, do a little Googling about whether blocking vs deactivating causes old comments to disappear (of course people can also manually delete comments, on top of her profile not being viewable). I don't know the answer, but that will help you. I don't know what "empty, complete blank page" means either. A broken link? A profile but just a blank profile?

I do know that if someone has blocked you, the easiest way to tell is if other mutual friends can still see her page. If you had a mutual FB friend really close to you that wouldn't judge you, I guess you could ask them to check. I know you should "just let it go," but this kind of thing can be hurtful, confusing... and frustrating because it can be ambiguous, if she did block you and didn't just generally deactivate. You ask, was it a mistake? Probably not, but what caused it? Was it really that serious? IF she did block you personally (big if), I do think posting a MS pic might have been the cause or last straw in her mind, but that doesn't necessarily mean that was a rational response on her end. DCUM would like to tell you that you must be at fault somehow-- but some people just have issues.

My BIL-- DH's brother-- blocked me on FB for no discernible reason. (He can be capricious-- IDK. DH doesn't know either-- or at least has no idea of a "good" reason.) BIL and I were never FB friends in the first place, not for any particular reason, but this happened about 5 years ago, when I hadn't really added a lot of family as FB friends in any concerted way, and hadn't really realized BIL was even on FB. So I don't really know what it's like to be FB friends and then blocked.

Anyway, I realized when DH's cousin posted in a family group and I could see their non-nested responses to BIL, but not BIL's comments. I poked around and realized there were a couple of other things like that. I realized if I tried to search BIL's uncommon name on FB, nothing came up for me. But DH showed me that same cousin post on his own phone, and then I could see BIL's comments. Now, years later, I am on a family thread in FB Messenger with everyone, and I guess because of that-- perhaps because he started the group text himself?-- I can see BIL's messages. But I can't click on his name or icon at all. He still has me blocked. *shrug emoji*

I don't think of it every day, but it does bug me a little still-- I am the godmother to both of his kids, and he is my kid's godfather. I know he's found me annoying at times-- not on FB, where anything remotely controversial I might post is heavily filtered, and no one related to me can even see it! But that's literally all I've got-- mostly we have gotten along very well, have been ILs for 20 years, and in theory we have a fine relationship. At the time when I realized he had me blocked, there was a mild strain on his relationship with me and DH related mostly, I think, to the fact that we didn't force our DD to hug people and we didn't let people pick her up without warning-- she was 2-3. And he was definitely pouty and weird about that. But that's just evidence of the fact that people's weird behavior on social media gets to you if you're at all sensitive. And by "you," I mean me, for sure. Some people just have issues that have little, if anything, to do with you.

Anonymous wrote:What everyone else has said. With respect, OP, you are -- by your own account -- letting a website "break your heart," "hurt" you, and "drive you crazy." Isn't that a little bit of a clue that Facebook is unhealthy and kind of sucks?

As for the substance, she almost certainly either deactivated or deleted her account. If you're really curious, email her and say, "hey, it looks like you left facebook! Good for you, it's a hellhole. Anyways, wanted to share this photo. Good times."

Do you have another way to contact here, like a phone number or email? If not, sorry to say you are likely not that close to her to begin with. Try not to let it upset you.

What everyone else has said. With respect, OP, you are -- by your own account -- letting a website "break your heart," "hurt" you, and "drive you crazy." Isn't that a little bit of a clue that Facebook is unhealthy and kind of sucks?

As for the substance, she almost certainly either deactivated or deleted her account. If you're really curious, email her and say, "hey, it looks like you left facebook! Good for you, it's a hellhole. Anyways, wanted to share this photo. Good times."