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[quote=Anonymous]Thanks to all those that replied- especially those that have experienced something similar with the surviving parent, which seems so odd to say given my Dad is still alive, but I don't know how else to describe it when one parent is still alive, and the other is alive, but has almost completely disappeared cognitively.  It feels a little less lonely to know I'm not the only one who has encountered this with their parent.

I wish I could do more to help my Mom, but she won't even allow me to come stay with her anymore, even when I offer to take a COVID test and isolate for a few days in advance. But in the end, I guess it's going to be what its going to be, and nothing I can do will change anything about it.

I guess, it just feels like me, my sibling, or the grandchildren, are not enough for  her to want to carry on once my father passes, and that hurts. Or that she can't see that although I may grieve differently, it still hurts immensely to see what the Lewy Body has once done to my father.  He use to light up a room and family was everything to him. He doesn't even remember his own name now, let alone recognize his family. But my Mom is so laser focused on the fact she losing her husband, she can't even see, let alone show empathy, to the fact my sibling and I are losing a father. Which is ironic, since a decade ago, she was tore up about losing her  own father, and would talk about him in almost every conversation for years afterwards. But despite my own feelings, I try to emphasize to how my Mom may be feeling, as I don't know what its like to lose a husband of 40+ years, especially in this manner, and just want to help her if I can.

Sorry; realize I am venting again. As before, thank you for all that replied. It means a lot to hear the experience and advice of those that have been there before, and I take comfort in everyone's words. To say this has been difficult to navigate the past 2 years is an understatement. [/quote]

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