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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You call it quits when you have thought through everything and made your plan for finances, work, and how you will do everything as a single parent.

It sounds like time for you to take a hard line with your DH.  Offer him the opportunity to do online counseling and tell him you are no longer willing to carry everything.  Then stop carrying it.  Stop waking him up.  Stop doing anything for him.  Stop doing things that are important to him and not you.  Cut things out of your life to make it simpler, and start hiring things out.  Basically live like a single person with kids because that is your plan in the long run.[/quote]

This is basically my answer.

And I'd go one step further - I'd tell him that you need him to take care of dinner twice a week and mornings twice a week. Ask him what days he wants and then literally do not do anything to "help." Make him figure it out. He will probably be furious when he oversleeps and the kids are crying and hungry, but this fight is worth it.

Your husband and situation sounds a lot like mine - with the irritation and walking on eggshells, but loyal and great in-laws. One reason I am still married is that financially it would be very hard to be a single mom and keep my kids in their schools. I do have an apartment picked out, however.[/quote]

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