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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Go through an egg donor agency. A good one will have lots donors to choose from. I believe there are agencies that specialize in Asian donors.

We live in a highly-educated area, with many, many very smart kids. I’d strongly suggest that you look for a donor in college or with a college degree.  Intelligence is more heritable than you might think. [/quote]

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Genes determine so much. Go to the parenting section and search for nature v nurture. I think more than 80% is determined by nature. I’d absolutely go with someone with a college degree, same SA ethnicity, and same blood type, so the child never finds out. Just in case the child ends up being sensitive about not having mom’s genes. [/quote]
Sorry to disabuse you of your fantasies but the child will find out. Better it comes from the parents in age-appropriate fashion.[/quote]

+1. It is strongly discouraged to try to hide this from children. There is a body of research that supports telling early so it's part of their "story" their entire lives. With commercial products like 23 and me, it is almost inevitable the child will find out eventually, maybe not until they are adults or even have kids of their own, but at some point you won't have control over their choices. You hide it and it becomes a traumatizing event.

https://www.parents.com/parenting/dynamics/gay-parents/explaining-sperm-and-egg-donors-to-children/[/quote]

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