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[quote=Anonymous]Please listen to this, OP:

Being in pain and struggling with unexplained and dismissed symptoms for years does something to your psyche. You feel you're going crazy. You may seek attention and whine and dramatize BECAUSE your symptoms are real yet no one is paying attention. Anxiety arising from not knowing what your body is doing makes the symptoms worse, and makes you behave in ways that others do not understand.

Just because you think your sister has an annoying personality does not mean she didn't have REAL SYMPTOMS for years, and deserves REAL MEDICAL TREATMENT and REAL EMOTIONAL SUPPORT.

My mother developed Multiple Sclerosis at 26. At the time, in her country, her doctors were not sure she had MS, and knew little about it. They chose to hide it from her for years. Since she did not have a diagnosis, her entire family called her crazy and when she couldn't work because she was in hospital, paralyzed, one said she was faking things just to get on the dole. When she was finally diagnosed "officially", her family took a long time to come around because they had been so dismissive of her symptoms and probably felt guilty and uncomfortable with her situation. I spent my childhood hearing all about it from all sides...

So don't do this to your sister. Be kind. Suffering while being ignored or criticized is the WORST.

It would be ideal if you could apologize for dismissing her symptoms right away, so it doesn't weigh on the relationship going forward. Then you can listen to her without any guilt, and be just as compassionate with her as you would with any other loved one in your life.

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