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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it’s true that a lot of kids are experimenting with identity and trying on these labels as a teen is trendy right now.  That said, I think if kids are actually having relationships then it is well beyond trying on a label.  OP is describing her kids as both actually dating someone, not just “coming out” to friends or parents verbally without any non-theoretical attraction.  The Kinsey Scale being what it is, I think a lot of kids these days will feel attraction to someone or will feel like they don’t fit a cis stereotype and will jump on the bandwagon of declaring “Oh, I must be bisexual/nonbinary/whatever!”  Many of those kids grow up a little and start to actually date and interact with people and may realize, “Oh, just because I am artistic and don’t like sports doesn’t mean I am nonbinary.  I can be a cis man and still like what I like.”  Or “Oh, just because I feel attracted to Ruby Rose or Kristen Stewart in theory doesn’t mean that I am bisexual, because in real life the only people I actually want to date are men.”[/quote]

I think this is true about kids experimenting with identity and that actually engaging in relationships is different from trying on a label. My 16 y/o cousin and her female friends all identify as queer, bisexual, or gay but none of them have been in any kind of physical relationship with another girl. Of course this doesn’t mean that they won’t eventually but I do think they appreciate that they have a way to push against gender norms and traditional relationship roles by proudly labeling themselves as not straight. Also, we live in an extremely liberal area of the country where their parents and community really champion coming out and not falling into the straight, white, etc category. Anyhow, I do think actual physical relationships are less likely to be the result of experimenting with identity and, to OPs original point, I have known a few families where multiple children were gay. Luckily, their parents were very supportive and loving which I think made coming out easier. [/quote]

I’m gay. Been out since college. An old college friend of mine used to say that we had a lot of friends who were okay with us being gay, but that didn’t necessarily equate with them being okay with us having sex with men. [/quote]

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