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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, he’s a jerk.

And don’t let all the anti-women posters here get you down.

Give us some rough numbers: what’s the rent, what does he pay, what do you pay? How much are other expenses?  How much did you get paid in your old job and now in your current one?

[b]Your boyfriend and you should be agreeing about finances[/b]; moving to a cheaper place is one option. Him getting angry at your income is a problem — y[b]ou should be figuring out your plan together.[/b][/quote]

Bold I agree with, but the problem isn't just the boyfriend it's OP too..

She agrees to move into a place she can not afford, relying on savings for rent is not a good idea, she should have been upfront from the start.   Did she talk about leaving her better paying job with him, or did she just wuit?

I can understand the boyfriend being annoyed if OP made him believe her financial situation was better than it was, and she up and  quit without talking with him

The big issue is OP doesn't seem to have concrete plans, she's not paid enough, she doesn't like her job, it's to stressful, wants to go back to school okay-that's fine, but it's not reasonable to expect a boyfriend ( or girlfriend ) to overhaul everything while you find yourself.

It sounds like Op expects her boyfriend to deal with her like she is the child and he's the parent, financing her while she finds herself and that isn't right.

I'd feel differently if OP was approaching this with a plan say, she had some savings,  was enrolled in a program that would last 18 months had a guaranteed financial/career benefit and she was able to articulate what she could contriubute during that time. NOt changing ehr mind about what direction her life and career is going to go in every few months and expecting boyfriend to figure out all the financials and move around on her whims.

You don't say how old you are OP, but I'm assuming quite young maybe under 25, maybe you do need to move back home,  get some counseling to better manage stress/anxiety,  pick a career, and learn to manage your finances better and only date for fun, not try to move in with someone yet, also try living in apartment on your own first .[/quote]

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