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Your DH is a people-pleaser.

He wants to help others and bask in the glow of being generous. I hope you know that the latter is a prime factor in charitable giving, OP. 
He is quick to feel obligated to people who help him. Great up to a point, unless he gets to a point where he can't say no.
But he also prefers to economize in daily life. Also excellent, unless his thrift descends into extreme territory.

I'm like this too. It's not a bad thing. Luckily my husband understands me and doesn't complain on DCUM!
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I find people-pleasers to be much more insidious than this description. Often their true desires do not have a healthy way to manifest and so become comforted and dangerous and they harbor hidden ill will and anger. I stay far, far away from people pleasers. [/quote]

As I said, I'm a people-pleaser, and your description is NOTHING like me. I haven't met any people-pleasers who exhibit ill-will and anger, actually.
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Ok. I have had the misfortune of meeting several, although all of them deny having aggressive or angry feelings ever and it just stews under the surface out of their consciences awareness. That is part of the pathology. I am willing to bet you are in denial about many aspects of yourself.[/quote]

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