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[quote=Anonymous]OP all I can say is hope your parents age well and stay mentally healthy. My parents were always about fairness, but mom is now about control, power and punishing with money. She passed a dementia test, but just has lost her filters and sense of decency with age and despite leading a pretty luxurious life she feels bitter, angry and entitled.

I was the key sibling who helped out throughout my father's long illness and gradually mom went from appreciating it to me having a target on my back. I became her scapegoat. Since he had passed away she has a long list of unrealistic expectations of what I alone should be doing for her. I have worked with a therapist to set boundaries. So she makes inheritance threats to try to challenge boundaries. I repeatedly tell her it's her choice.

Now she is giving huge financial gifts to my sibling and the sibling's child. She tells me as a way to try to feel powerful I suppose. She often tells me she plans to re-write the will and she threatens to make things less and less equal. Sibling makes a good living and child has no disabilities or health issues anything making her need more money. I once again stay out of it because it is not my money.

So I am the one there for her. I am the one who dealt with emergencies and the other child who does not live near by and who barely had a relationship with her for decades will end up possibly with the entire inheritance by the time this is over. I still feel like I had enough of a relationship with her years ago that I want to be in her life, but all this is to say...it's not over until it's over and in the end you could have nothing at all. [/quote]

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