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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So people can only want to lose weight if it’s “affecting their heart health, causing joint problems, or limiting their mobility and ability to live active lives.”?  So people can only try to lose weight when you approve of it?  This is weird.[/quote]

People can do what they want with their own bodies. But passing off your restrictive fad diet as “eating healthy” and criticizing others who don’t have your same disordered eating patterns (or don’t exercise obsessively or take stimulants) is obnoxious.[/quote]

... and had that been the point of the OP, most people would agree.  To me she sounded just as disordered and delusional as the fad dieters.  [/quote]

I am the OP and this is indeed my point. I don’t have disordered eating issues. I eat relatively healthy while also indulging in foods that taste good to me and not worrying a lot about it. I am active and feel good, so I don’t view those indulgences as an issue. I am tired of judgmental comments from my sister, my mom, and a large group of colleagues, all of whom feel comfortable telling me how “bad” my diet is and will make comments about my “weird” food or accuse me of binging because I ate dessert. I feel incessantly judged for my eating habits, specifically because I’m not on some permanent restrictive diet, and a lot of the women in my life are. [/quote]

NP here. You really need to voice this to those specific people. It’s bizarre that you have multiple people in your life telling you how unhealthy your food choices are. Do they seriously say this anytime you eat a cookie in front of them? I’m having a hard time imagining people commenting like that, unless you’re like, eating an entire birthday cake in front of them.[/quote]

OP here. At work, I have been dealing with comments like this for over a year. It started out with little “wow, you really like to eat!” comments because I ack a lunch and a few snacks everyday. But then it argued into comments about the food itself. I eat salads a lot but like to put dressing on them, and [b]they will comment about that as though an avocado dressing somehow counteracts the veggies in my salad. They comment on how much bread I consume because I ... eat sandwiches.[/b]

The truth is that they have done collective disordered eating issues. They are talk about food constantly and discuss all their fad diets all the time. Right now it’s intermittent fasting (thus the annoyance with me this week for consuming a Kit Kat outside THEIR eating window). They are acting like I am doing something gross (like eating an entire birthday cake) because, I presume, they are hungry and don’t like seeing me eating normal food. And they have been working together for a while and I think have a sort of cult like thing going on. They would say they “support” each other, but based on their nastiness towards me, I think it’s something else.

My mom and sister are easier to deal with normally, but I’m so tired of the constant dieting talk/judgment at work that I can’t deal with their BS anymore either.

It’s okay to have dessert. It’s okay to not be actively trying to lose weight. It’s okay to be a happy and healthy 135lb instead of a starved and obsessive 115.[/quote]

If this is truly the kind of thing they comment on, it is just so outside the norm that you should feel free to disregard it entirely. [/quote]

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