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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I don't think "scarring them for life" is the point. Of course you won't. But one can be very firm and strict without resorting to name-calling. I think it is a question of modeling appropriate behavior and creating an atmosphere of respect. [/quote]

This.  It is possible to have rules, structure, expectations, and discipline that allow you to address a behavior that you want to stop, without calling your child names.  I will admit that, just like every other person on the planet, my kid has acted like a jerk on occasion.  Do tell him he's a jerk?  No, because I don't think he is.  I think he's a child who made a wrong choice and I want him to behave better the next time.  It doesn't mean I don't discipline or that I sugarcoat everything and spend hours discussing our feelings about every little thing, but I address the behavior rather than using a personal insult.

When you call a child names, it is hard to take it back.  They remember it and internalize it.  "I don't like the way you're behaving" is something they can use - they can change the behavior, say they're sorry, etc.  "You are a cry-baby" is telling them that's who they are.  My kids are not allowed to call each other or other children names, so why should I be allowed to do it to them?[/quote]

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