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OP, I'm right there with you. I have a biracial (white/black) son and, the longer  I live in America, I  am becoming painfully aware of the fine line black and Latino men, in  particular, walk.  I strongly believe that people have consious and unconcious preconceived notions that are very hard to put aside. Black men in america above all NEVER get a second chance to change people's opinions of them. [/b]  I say this as a black women (married to a white man)  who grew up in an all black country so never encountered the concept of negative judgement based on the color of one's skin.  My 10 years of living in the US has changed that. Even in casual conversations with friends who I know would not consider themselves racist, I hear so many subconscious racial notions slip out that it sometimes astound me.[b]
 
To answer your question, I absolutely dress my son very conservatively to avoid him making a poor first impression and thankfully, he is quite well behaved and mature for his age so both these things contribute to making him one of those boys who people comment on as being so well behaved-  parents and teachers alike. He is usually the token black boy at many of the social gatherings of kids from his 'big 3' school though this is a by-product of the whole exercise rather than my original intention.
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OP here. Unfortunately this has been my experience the past few years. I think I just shrugged it off before I had kids but now I am more sensitive. You summed up well what I am feeling. I do want my boys to make a good first impression. I still have extended family in Latin America and we try to visit once a year because I do think it is important for my kids to see a community where most people  look like they do. [/quote]

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