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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are not alone!

I have heard that boys especially are often out to lunch for this whole process. (Though, I am sure there are exceptions in both genders).

To reduce the fighting, I once heard [b]limit your college discussions to a set time per week. At that meeting (like, say Sunday nights), the kid can present what they have done, what their plans are for the week, show you reminders/alarms on their phone, etc[/b].

I think the more kids lives approach our own,as they must become responsible for meeting the deadlines, it is a stressful handover. Still, they have to learn how to manage this stuff.

Perhaps discuss this "meeting" plan with your DC and they will rise to the occasion. Maybe even say, "I have faith that you can manage this process, since you are almost an adult and will soon be in charge of your own life." (Even if you have NO such faith at all yet).

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We did this and it worked well.  It helped me rein in my anxiety and not let it bubble out in day-to-day conversations, but imposed some order on the process.

Plus, after each Sunday afternoon meeting, a glass of wine was timely.[/quote]

We've been doing this too.  I will say that meeting ended up turning into a working meeting when he didn't do what was agreed to for the week.  e.g. you were supposed to send your resume to the teacher who is writing a LOR, enter your recommenders into Naviance, update the list of schools you are applying to.  Oh, didn't do it?  Then we are doing it right now.  Definitely helped to get the process going. And lately I've seen DS actually taking time to work on the supplements without me nagging and ask me to review them.[/quote]

This is a great idea - a set time each week (with wine after!) for college app discussions. I tend to just pass my anxiety on to my DD every time she walks past me. She actually pointed out that when she said she was doing something interesting/fun/happy, I would immediately say - BUT WHAT ABOUT THE SUPPLEMENTAL ESSAYS? every time. And she's right. Love the idea of a planned time to discuss.

(And I'm the weepy OP from the other thread! Weepy AND stressed, apparently!:))[/quote]

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