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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up very spoiled. As an adult I'm realizing what a disservice this was. I still hold onto a lot of unrealistic expectations and fantasies about life. It's hard for me to accept  compromise and life's harsh realities. Anyone ever get through something like this?[/quote]
What exactly are you having a hard time dealing with?

I'm not trying to be smug.  I grew up lower income, to immigrant parents who didn't speak any English. So, I do understand what it's like to go through hardships. But I'm trying to understand from your point of view what it is that you find difficult about life because I am trying to teach my children, who live a very comfortable middle/upper middle class life, that life is hard, and you need grit and determination.

I am trying to teach them to be fiscally responsible; cook; clean.   I try not to be too much of a helicopter parent by letting them fail at certain things and let them suffer disappointment.   I don't believe they should get a trophy for just participating.

I grew up differently from them, and I find it difficult to balance teaching them to be resilient while providing opportunity and material things.  Short of letting them parent themselves, which is how I grew up, sometimes I don't know where to draw the line.

So, I'd be interested in an adult's perspective of what you think your parents could [b]have done differently to teach you to be more resilient.[/b]  [/quote]
Honestly, I don't think this can be taught. You can teach independence by letting kids fend for themselves but resilience is like bravery - or a sense of adventure - you either have it or you don't. [/quote]

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