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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay, a student sat on or at a desk. On a desk? That's inappropriate. Your daughter used ONE curse word? And the other student files a bullying complaint? That's not bullying. That's an altercation. Very different things. The teacher telegraphed it was your daughter by assigning the seat.
Teens make mistakes. Telling a student to eff off (or whatever she said) is wrong. But the combination of the rush to label your daughter a bully (a form? one incident?) and the public shaming are not ideal. I'd tell you daughter to apologize and to take this as a lesson to never be rude to anyone in the police state that our schools have become again.
(I'm assuming your daughter did not use a racial or hate term here. That would change this a bit.)[/quote]

OP here. Need to provide a little more background. So in this class DD has been using one particular desk (since her friends sit close to that desk). So, the other girls usually sits close to her friends and once in a while comes and sit at this desk which irks my DD (childish teen can be irked by silly things). However, she never acted out. So, last week the other girl sat at that desk and my DD asked her move so that she can be at her usual desk close to friends. The other girl did not move, they had a little discussion and in the frustartion my DD called the other girl "slut". The other girl texted the mom (do not know whether during the class or afterwards) and mom showed up with a bully form and reported that my DD bullied her. School conducted investigation and the consequence for my daughter was to sit at an assigned desk for 3 weeks. Same day, school sent a letter to let parents know of the situation. The teacher in this particular class distributed the letter and briefed that there was a bully incident in the class related to students feeling they own particular desk and behaving appropriately. She also mentioned the bully student has received consequences. That is how everone in the class came to know of my DD's mistake.

I totally agree that DD's action was inappropriate. However, I feel the punishment and ramification of the punishment is an example of counterproductive discipline used at school to set example.

The other issue I did not bring up earlier is that in this MS, in the past disciplinary consequences to students from cetain races were issued disproportionate to their school race mix (for example, even though population of x race is 25% of the school population, 66% of the disciplinary consequences are issued to students of X race) and hence the Principal was asked last year to look into it. As a result, there is a conscious effort to change the discipline statistics.[/quote]

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