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[quote=Anonymous]Modeling and positive reinforcement, 1000%.  Also, extended periods of time living with other people, preferably without access to screens, like a high-quality summer camp if you can afford it.

That said, be mindful of who your kids are hanging out with. If they are spending a lot of time with bullies or at a friend's house where the parents don't share the values and behaviors you want to instill, reconsider the amount of time they spend together.

It isn't about necessarily excluding everyone who isn't like you until they are older but consider that if your son or daughter spends boatloads of time with a family that believes girls shouldn't go to school for anything but an MRS degree, has ONLY the females clean up, do chores, etc, etc, what sort of message does that send your child? It normalizes it.

Same with people/parents who begin drinking at 9a, people who just scream until they get their way or because they have to wait in line, or take your child to a church after a sleepover and the sermon is on how they think we should go back to enslaving POC (I really wish I was joking about this last one).

As an adult, modeling at home and by friends & family members when others weren't watching made the biggest impression on me. Seeing those values and behaviors in other families went a long way in reinforcing that and it is important to model them when it is genuine and isn't just for show.

The households with abusive or toxic behavior and those that actively punished things most people take for granted like women voting, wearing anything but a skirt, parents and children of both genders dividing chores and helping clean up after a meal were pretty traumatizing. Being harassed or bullied by the older adults for daring to...sit at the table vs the counter, wear pants or graduate university. 
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