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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When my mom had dementia I found myself managing her like you would a small child. I treated her respectfully but I didn't expect anything she said to be correct and I often managed her behavior similarly to if she was a little kid.

So, it might help if you[b] let go of any expectation that she is a functioning adult. [/b] Also, you can use extreme forgetfulness in your favor by saying things that calm her in the moment but that won't actually happen, like "I'll take you to the store tomorrow." or similar.[/quote]

These are good suggestions for you OP, especially the bolded.

And if you've stopped your therapy for some reason then you need to restart. Your mom has a medical condition, whether it is mental illness or dementia, and it doesn't sound like you're handling it very well. You are holding your past against her and you're not recognizing that the past doesn't matter a bit in her current condition. You need to get over it and deal with her as she is, not as she was. And she is a person who needs more compassion [i]because of her medical condition[/i] not in spite of your past.[/quote]

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