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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the dad provided some easy answers for you so you stopped being so nosy.

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Easy - yes.  Well-thought out -- definitely not.  I can tell you that we have gotten questions from our son, adopted as an infant, about why we changed his name.  He even once asked, "didn't you like it?"  We kept it as a middle name.

This family should not have been approved to adopt internationally, IMO.  They don't show any signs of having thought about the issues associated with adopting internationally, especially adopting an older, institutionalized child.  I wish them luck - I think they're going to be in for a lot of problems.[/quote]

The varying answers here show that there is no one monolithic way to handle all international adoptions.  I was adopted internationally as was my sister.  Our parents changed our names. I've never once asked them why or asked if they didn't like it.  I know what my name was (not a name my birth parents gave me); I am free to legally change my name back to it, but I don't want to.

I have also adopted a child internationally.  We kept her last name as her middle name, but she does have a first name we picked out.

No one knows the intimate details surrounding this child's background.  There undoubtedly are lots of things her family is not sharing with you and may have given you an "easy" answer as opposed to having to go into many details about why they changed her name.

FWIW, since she was so much older when adopted, I probably would not have changed her name, but again, there are lots of factors that play into this process.[/quote]

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