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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is a possibility that the girl wants it.  A friend of mine adopted a child from Africa (9 yrs old) who asked to change her name, and who wants to be more American.

The girl from Russia may have no positive memories of Russia. It would be wrong of the parents to force a connection she doesn't want.

Or it could really be as PP stated - that the adoptive parents don't want their child to have any ties and to not be different than their other kids. [/quote]

What would you expect a child to say.  This child is adapting to a new language.  A new culture.  A new country.  A new family.  She wants to fit in.  Is it the best thing in the long run, more than likely not.  It is not good to try and erase a child's entire existence and think it just began they day she was adopted.  Perhaps it would have been different if the child was adopted as an infant.  I still still suggested using the birth name as a middle name.  I think your friend should have read the blogs from the adult adoptees on this subject.  The majority, who blog, have serious issues regarding the erasure of their past.  Just my thoughts.  [/quote]

This girl was raped when she was 7. Spent the last 2 years living with American missionaries.  She wants to start life "new". Of course, life here doesn't erase what happened to her.  But trying to force a connection with a culture she wants nothing to do with isn't right.[/quote]

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