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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why can’t your mom just have been a better person? Why can’t she now? That’s what you really want and you can’t make your mom be a better person. You can accept her how she is and accept that she very likely feels guilty and wishes her past had been different and she had done things differently. So your choices are to accept the person your mom is or keep wishing and hoping of you just stand their long enough being pained she will have a light bold moment and suddenly do whatever you think is the right things .[/quote]

Interesting take. Are you OP's mom?[/quote]

DP here, but that poster is perfectly correct. It's not what anyone wants to hear, of course, but it's reality. That does NOT mean OP has to interact only on her mother's terms. OP will need to draw boundaries. This is where working with a therapist can be helpful (also a suggestion of OP's mother - that woman isn't stupid!).
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I know if I caused so much damage that I suggested my own son or daughter see a therapist, I would feel pretty stupid. [/quote]

You would be wrong. There are plenty of threads on these boards where parents bring their children to therapists, and where adult children need therapy whether or not the parent caused any childhood trauma.

If your child ever comes to you in 20 years time, saying you caused great harm to them, the BEST response is to suggest therapy.

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