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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP here and I am sympathetic.  I've got two DDs (both older teens now) and it just seems like the younger one (DD2) is better at everything.  She's extremely athletic, and artistic, and gets better grades and is in a more rigorous academic course path.

One example:  When they were younger, we had them in the same sport, and DD2 was so good she was put 2 years up onto DD1's team.

Part of this, though, is DD2's work ethic, which is standard deviation(s) from the norm.  She is not a procrastinator and she's always looking to learn or improve on something, while my DD1 is more of a 'normal' teen and likes to watch her phone.

However; speaking to OP, I recognize how hard it is when you have someone in the family who is like that.  The key is, finishing that sentence...it could be "someone in the family who is more talented than me," or "someone in the family that is hyper-talented."

I think that was the key to DD1 becoming ok with it.  Realizing that DD2 was not just more talented than her, but more talented than many people.  I recall DD1 saying, "DD2 wasn't just better than me on the team, she was better than all the (2 years older players) on the team."

So if you shift your reference point from "just you" to the general population or peer group, it becomes easier.  "Mini-me-but-better" goes away.  [/quote]

I'm sure it was hard for your older daughter to deal with having a precocious little sister, but it sounds like OP is more concerned with the fact that her little sister is copying her interests and life choices, making it hard for OP to pursue her interests without constantly feeling like her sister is looking over her shoulder. These are different situations.[/quote]

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