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[quote=Anonymous]Dropping my two cents here. .

I researched adoption, met a few parents who went through the process, talked to a few agencies and decided. . . it's an utter shit-show.  (So much that my husband and I are doing donor eggs, before adoption.  Cost is less. Go figure. . .)

Be prepared to pay $50K or more for a healthy (non-drug exposed) child.  :shock:

Be prepared to pay around 8K for a black child (yes there is a horrific disparity in cost.  Draw your own conclusions.)  And be prepared for birth mothers who want lots of *rights* of access to their birth child.  You may find yourself a glorified pick-up-the-bill guardian instead of a true parent.  :cry:

I also learned (off the record conversations of course ) that birth mothers are heavily biased against couples over the age of 40 and that adoptions to older parents are not that frequent at agencies.  (Some flat out say they will not adopt to couples over a certain age.)  :?

If you are set on adoption, go the private attorney route.  Agencies will get your hopes up and make you jump through a silly amount of hoops to get approved.  You'll spend thousands to wait in line.  Private attorneys seem to come with less drama.

Ultimately to build your family you WILL have to be VERY resourceful[/quote]

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