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[quote=Anonymous]Are you sure you aren’t hormonal op? You liked your husband enough to get pregnant and hormones do weird things to women’s brains when we are pregnant.

I’m the wife of one of the posters, (the one who mentioned having 3 kids) and I’ve learned that men and women respond to pregnancy differently.  It’s something nobody talks about and I wish they would.

As for curtains, hire someone to hang them.  He shouldn’t have to help you.

As for the store and maintaining a home, did he grow up poor or as the child of divorce?  I’ve known many kids from divorced homes who have no clue what needs to be done or even that things need to be done because all their time is having fun with their parents.  They never hear words like “I don’t want to wait for the hvac guy either, but I do want a warm house this weekend” or “after I’m done paying bills, we can go someplace”.

When I read your bit about the sandwich, my first thought was “does he bring you anything too?” If not, that’s not nice.  I agree with my husband, he must eat with you.  Bad things happen to a couple when they don’t share meals together.

As for buying other things, if he grew up with little money or no place to store things or no assurance that whatever was stored would still be there when it was needed (think living with a druggie) why would he stock up?  Not all things are worth stocking up on, though only buying one roll of toilet paper strikes me as odd.  Are you sure he isn’t using his trips to the store to sneak off and do something that is inherently bad for him?  I’d make sure he wasn’t using the ‘gotta run to the store” excuxe to engage in behavior that would cause him or the family financial, emotional or physical pain.

Finally, your husband may be mentally ill.  It manisfests itself in some weird ways and is worth thinking about.

I know for me, the resentment directed at me and the little to no sex would be untennable.

Figure out what you can and cannot live with and act acordingly. The curtains and shelves are minor, the home stuff can be learned or understood even if he can’t or won’t do the work himself, the lack of sex and anger directed at you over basic life stuff is huge and should have been at the top of your (and my) post.

That is my list though and you will need to create your own.

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