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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I asked this because my ex allowed our daughter to spend the night at his sister’s boyfriend’s house. I didn’t find out until I was on my way to pick her up. I told him he should’ve talked to me first. I don’t know his sister’s boyfriend and I’m not comfortable with my daughter spending the night at a stranger’s house. He thinks I’m overreacting and it’s not a big deal because he knows him. I still believe he should’ve spoken to me about this first. [/quote]

You are overreacting and it’s not a big deal and you don’t get a say when it’s time with dad. The end.[/quote]

That is not entirely true.

My divorce agreement has a right of first refusal clause. If he is going to be away from our child for more than 3 hours or any amount of time overnight, he has to offer me the time before so much as hiring a babysitter. I have to do the same. The only times I've had to invoke this clause were when he traveled for work and tried to leave our child with his girlfriend. It happened a few times, with a few different girlfriends, none of whom was in his/DD's life for more than a couple months.

I don't get to tell him what to feed her for dinner, but if he is going to leave her overnight with anyone, he has to offer me the time first. If I am not available, he is welcome to do whatever he wants, but if I am available, he can't send her anywhere other than my house or his, with him in it.[/quote]

Same clause with me. My ex-wife did the same thing with her new BF and I wasn't comfortable with him around my kids so had to inform her politely that I am available and it's not good for the kids. She also got drunk one night at a party at her BF's place and made kids (5 and 7) sleep in another room on their own. Kids didn't know where their mom were and got scared.

I understand no interference and completely follows it but I only reach out to her when incidents like this happen. It's hard to not speak up when it is such a huge inconvenience or negligence for my kids. She did the same thing and introduced her next BF to kids within 6 weeks. [/quote]

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