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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP its not funny you can't make it funny and you don't need to present it to anyone. Its your private business.[/quote]

It's hard to grow close to fiends without EVER saying anything about your parents or childhood.  Where'd you grow up?  Oh, do your parents still live there?  Do you see your parents often?  Are your parents coming to visit the new baby/for your son's birthday? Oh I went there on a family vacation when I was 8 - where'd you go on family vacations? All totally innocent things to ask.[/quote]

8:33 here.  None of the questions you posed require someone to get into the emotional baggage of their childhood.  When I'm asked these types of questions, it's enough to say that I had a rough upbringing and, when my father was alive, that we no longer had a relationship.  There are many reasons why someone had a rough upbringing, many reasons why you wouldn't have contact with relations.  For the most part, people accept that and don't pry.  Those that don't accept it or attempt to pry really aren't friend-worthy.

I wouldn't consider 'where did you grow up?' or 'where'd you go on family vacations?' to be private questions.  I grew up in X state and we didn't usually take family vacations.  I do not disclose that when we did take vacations it was hell on earth.  I 'edit'.  [/quote]

Seriously. OP, try just answering questions honestly as a starting place. "Do you go back to your hometown much?" "No, I don't have contact with that side of the family." "Why not?" "All sorts of abuse and dysfunction." I give calm, matter-of-fact answers about my own family of origin/childhood all the time btw. A 30-minute explanation and a comedy routine is really not what people are looking for here nor what will probably make whatever is bothering you feel better. [/quote]

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