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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - thanks for the replies. I posted this quickly yesterday as I was hiding in the bathroom having a bad moment.

This is probably TL:DR as "defense":

1 - they are not punished solely for breaking the rules I mentioned and we spend pretty much every waking moment with our kids thankyouverymuch. They were in trouble because I was cleaning the bathrooms and they were playing inside (after we had made breakfast together, taken a bike ride to the park, did some Kiwi Crate crafts, practiced letters with the 3YO, the 5YO played his tablet, and they played in the hose washing the cars with DH) and for some reason they decided to pull out all of their clothes from the dresser, throw a full open water bottle at one another, and also throw all my work papers around my office, all of which they know they're not supposed to do (and if you tell me that my 3YO doesn't know better I would challenge you to that). Then the remote for our rc car was run over because someone left it in the street (sure, natural consequences, but there were lots of tears and stress over it). Then later my 5YO left without telling us where he was going on his electric scooter, which he knows he's not allowed to ride without an adult watching and he's not allowed to "show off" to friends because I don't want other kids riding it and getting hurt. I was tired of cleaning up, I was tired of being "mean mommy", and just tired in general.

2 - there are toys/kid stuff on the main level. We have arts and crafts, puzzles, and card games in the kitchen. They have their chairs and some books in the living room. Things like their wooden trains, Legos, Hot Wheels, and Little People need to remain in their own spaces either in their room or in the basement playroom. We spend plenty of time playing WITH our kids all over the house.

3 - my kids are allowed to play outside "unsupervised" in our driveway/garage and our yard. Yes, even my almost 4YO. They do need to ask to go outside, which has been one of our issues and something we're continuously working on because sometimes they don't ask before going to play outside or I don't remind them to put their shoes or helmet on.

Anyway, you all are right about the routines and it's something we'll definitely work on more. I also need to revamp my 1-2-3 Magic skills and also give them some more responsibilities. We moved a few months ago and we're in a whole new world of the kids having friends in the neighborhood and learning how to let them (well, mostly my 5YO) have a little more freedom and responsibility. [/quote]

It sounds like you're really active and engaged parents, and that's great! I like that you are trying to give your kids independence... but it sounds like you are giving them a bit too much independence. I would never allow my 3YO to play outside unsupervised, especially w/ a 5YO siblings (my two are thoes exact ages) -- double trouble and all.

The electric scooter should either be off limits until your kids get older/mature, or it should only be used when you are there supervising.

Someone is going to get hurt.[/quote]

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