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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH has ADHD, and who knows what else. He has outbursts, impulsive issues, anger issues, yells, is just kind of a mess really. We all have to make allowances for his behavioral issues. But if any of us behaves in any sort of way, he has no tolerance and will go on and on about them needing help needing to get it together. For example, this morning my daughter’s big dog jumped on me, it hurt and scared me and I let out a yelp. He’s been on for 20 minutes about me needing to get some control over myself. But yesterday, we were waiting to pick up take out, he literally left, and I said we can’t leave we need to get the food we paid for, and he literally screamed” Are You F* Kidding Me” with the kids Jin the car and everything. But that’s not unusual behavior for him. But we all have to deal with it because he can’t help it or we deserved it or whatever. [/quote]

For the 20 minute going on and on 
He can’t stop himself so step in and do it
You go up to him you look straight in the eye and you say in a low menacing voice “stop now” and don’t break eye contact if he tries 
Try it 
It’s the shock that will stop the impulsive action and it is the shame that he will feel that will help impart a reminder to stop the next time you become quiet and start to quietly approach him

Sadly it might sound mean or wrong but adhd people literally need someone else at times to tell them when and how to turn it off 
They can’t do it on their own or they would do so
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PP from above: Yes I had to do that. Many times I had to tell workers and others that “my DH is very ill ...” it’s no way to live. [/quote]

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