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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don’t confuse ADHD with just being an A$$. [/quote]

+1 - I hate it when people blame ADHD for everything. My son has ADHD inattentive type and displays none of the behavior I see attributed to ADHD on this site, yet he’s lumped into it and all the negativity that comes with it. [/quote]

ADHD manifests differently in different people.  The fact that your inattentive ADHD doesn’t make you lose your temper and have impulsive outbursts is irrelevant.  Many people with ADHD have terrible problems with emotional regulation and impulse control. Others don’t.
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PP:  of course, but people don’t make that distinction when saying how horrible people with ADHD act and that’s not fair to those who don’t act horribly because of ADHD, or not, although ADHD is often blamed for “asshole” behavior.

I’ve read multiple posts over the years about women saying they will warn their daughters not to date anyone with ADHD and that hurts my heart because my child is wonderful – he’s the kindest, most empathetic person I know (literally) and does well with school, so I hate to think he will be judged negatively if a woman finds out he has ADHD, even though he displays none of the “aggressive” traits so often mentioned here.  [/quote]

+ 1  I agree with this as someone with ADHD. It does not help to attribute and excuse poor behavior because it is part of ADHD, or to assume someone being a jerk has ADHD.
It's also a disservice to  imply inattentive ADHD isn't harmful, especially when the vast majority of adults experience more inattentive symptoms, and being inattentive does not mean you can't have problems with emotional regulation.[/quote]

No one is implying that inattentive ADHD isn't harmful.  I am the PP who first mentioned emotional regulation and I have inattentive ADHD myself.  I do not have difficulty controlling my emotions but my husband does and so do my kids.  As stated previously, ADHD manifests differently in different people.  That isn't a value judgement, it's a fact.  And I worry mightily about my son who is also a wonderful, kind person but has great difficulty with regulating his emotions.  The fact that someone has difficulty with emotional control doesn't make them a jerk and it hurts [b]my[/b] heart that someone would make that assumption.
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