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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have six.  No, I always feel like the parent.  Not sure why I wouldn't - each kid just adds more responsibility. [/quote]

It adds more responsibility to the kids as often the older kids raise them and you dump them off on other families to drive, babysit, etc as well.[/quote]

Well, it only adds more responsibility to the older kids if we were to put the older kids in charge of the younger ones.  But if we do that for any longer than a half hour, we pay them to babysit and they are welcome to say no to the job offer.  We have a nanny, so between the nanny, my husband and I we don't rely on other families to drive or babysit. [/quote]

They cannot say no and it does add responsibility to them.   You have a nanny so if you are working, how much time does each get with you daily.  [/quote]

Maybe you had your own bad experience being the oldest of several or you've watched this play out in your social circle, I don't know. But my older kids can and HAVE said no.  And how much time my kids get with me is none of your business.  You raise your kids the way you want. I'll raise mine the way I want. I'm sure ALL our kids will turn out just fine.[/quote]

You are expecting them to help then.  First you say that you aren't having them help and now you are saying that you are.  I feel bad for you kids as you aren't doing 1-1 time and the siblings and nanny are raising them.[/quote]

What I said was that it is my responsibility to parent all my kids, but if I need an older kid to watch a younger for a half hour or less, they don't get paid and they can't say no. But if I need them to babysit for more than a half hour they CAN say no, and if they say yes they get paid for babysitting.  They have said no many times.  You don't have to feel bad for my kids.  You should feel bad for yourself for having such a narrow impression of what other people's lives MUST be based on zero facts. [/quote]

Exactly, you are forcing your kids to babysit and they cannot say no.  Its not about being paid but being the substitute parent.    I do feel bad for your kids.  There is no way you can give that many kids enough undivided attention and meet each child's needs.  [/quote]

So a babysitter who covers for parents’ date night is raising their kids?   :roll: [/quote]

DP.  I thought it was that a teen babysitter who covers for a parents date night isn’t being raised by her own parents.  Maybe it’s both :).  [/quote]

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