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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It didn't bother me at all or set a bad example at all.  Seeing the hassle that my friends went through with their divorced parents and new partners and everything, I would not trade.  Loving parents would have been nice, but divorce comes with a lot of other negatives.

If you want to divorce, own the choice for yourself.  Don't tell your kids you are banging your new girlfriend for their benefit.  They will find that disgusting and they will not agree with you.[/quote]

Child of divorce here and this comment above is all you need to read because its absolutely accurate.

My parents stuck it out till my older sibling left for college, so I was 15 when they finally separated from their loveless but low conflict marriage.  In hindsight, I am grateful they stuck it out long enough so I wasn't a shuttle kid on a custody schedule.  It's not like if they divorced earlier, I would have been thrilled for them as a 10 year old that they found love.  But it wouldn't have screwed me up for life either assuming they were mature about it.

You absolutely have a right to leave your sexless marriage, and it may make you a happier person and therefore a better parent.  But you are doing it for you, not your kids, and that's ok.  No different than the logic that if you decided to cheat so you could stay sane and married, you are doing it for you and not your kids, and that would also be ok.]

Just own the decision.

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This is wrong. It’s never good for the children to live in a house where the parents have no love for each other. And yes, the kids know.[/quote]

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