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[quote=Anonymous]Sometimes yes and sometimes no. The three things I never have to ask him to do are: grocery shop, make dinner (we share this pretty equitably and both take it on ourselves to plan a couple meals a week), and clean the kitchen. These stay in his head as things he has to do as an adult. He is also thoughtful about making sure the food he buys and prepares will work for everyone in the family.

Other cleaning tasks though? I have to ask. Or make a list and say "This is what needs to get done this week/weekend/before we leave for our trip." I thought that after a while he wouldn't need this anymore because he knows what needs to be done, but 10 years in and he still needs it. He just doesn't know how to prioritize tasks and isn't good at recognizing that something is dirty. I blame his family for never giving him chores as a kid or setting any standards for cleanliness. I think this happens to a lot of men. It sucks. Teach your sons how to clean and that cleaning is something all people have to do.

He figured out groceries/cooking/cleaning the kitchen on his own as an adult, because he HAD to eat. All the other stuff is like a foreign custom he is interested in but just never feels natural.[/quote]

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