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[quote=Anonymous]I lived with one of the daughters of a "tiger mom". Individual leases and you can't choose your rommate, in this situation.

She was a "successful" post-doc at my university and was miserable. She'd be up by 4a to go to the lab and come back around midnight. No friends, just work and the colleagues from work that she complained constantly were lazy.

She screamed at me for wasting time on the dance team I did 1x/week and for having a boyfriend (now DH). She also took issue with my betta fish and said she was going to kill it "for being a waste of time and not contributing to education".

She was highly unstable and after the fish comment I had enough to break my lease without any penalties.

My other experience with this type was also in my STEM field and she absolutely could not think for herself. Same thing again-no friends, anxiety, depression, rage issues, no ability to think critically or for herself without having previously seen it worked out in a book. Zero ability to adapt or adjust on our international project.

Two guys I knew ended up both financially successful but both are extremely angry and resentful towards their parents. One was lucky enough to do a field he semi-enjoys and the other hates it but can't/won't change because too many people are dependent on him financially and he already has a master's degree in it. 
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Look, raising an academically successful child is easy. Raising a well-rounded and generally successful child is harder.

Successful children are independent, supported, and internally motivated. Nobody is motivated all of the time-they re-up their inspiration periodically. They need the support.

Also, if your child doesn't want to pursue something, especially at university, LISTEN TO THEM and help them find something they actually are interested in because they will do better rather than being permanently damaged , miserable and mediocre in the wrong field. [/quote]

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